The best BDSM dating sites in the UK 2025

In order to be abel to write authentic reviews about the presented sites, we have tested these portals ourselves over a longer period of time.

For this purpose, several male members of our team volunteered, signed up for a premium/VIP membersip, filled out their profiles on the respective sites and uploaded an engaging profile picture. This is the only way to get a realistic impression of the site, particularly regarding the total number of active members, the ratio of men to women and the confidentiality of the site.

In order to get a feel for the response rate of the women, we came up with a greeting message for the respective website and sent it to an appropriately large number of women in our area.

After about two weeks we then checked what we got back in terms of responses and whether these were from real members.We then wrote down our highlights, both positive and negative and marked them as key points above. 

After careful consideration, we decided to remove seemingly free sites from our test, as these usually only lead to poor results. On these (initially) free sites, women's response rates were either too low to be considered or the responses were written by fake members to rip off the male members in one way or another. Most of the time, they tried to lure us to other dubious websites or to get us to send them money. From this we concluded that men who are actually looking for women to cheat with should better sign up with one of the paid sites, even though they may not seem very appealing at first.

In the end, it is important to bear in mind that, as a rule, only members who are serious about it register on these paid sites. Women without serious interests or even fake members usually shy away from spending money on these sites, which serves as a natural filter. 

Nonetheless, there are both better and worse sites with more or fewer women among the paid casual dating portals. In view of this, we reviewed the currently hottest sites in order to form our own opinion.

We also asked ourselves this question at the beginning of our research. You often hear that there are only fake women or only women with financial interests on online dating portals. It is true that there are many sites to which these prejudices apply. These sites have landed directly on our blacklist. You will find only real women on all the sites listed in our ranking as shown above.

But who do you find here? The results were surprising. Of course, each person on the portals is initially completely anonymous and if they do not want to be, they are not recognised by their neighbours or other people in their own area. Anonymity is a key issue that has top priority on the portals tested. Each member decides to what extent he or she wants to be found on the portals. Nevertheless, in the protected premium section, which can only be viewed by other premium members, many members like to showcase themselves.

Many of these women are in relationships themselves, married, or already divorced. In general, almost all of them are looking for an adventure and men with similar interests and preferences. Therefore, these sites are ideal for finding possible common ground even before an initial contact is made. Many of the aforementioned dating portals work with some kind of profile on which users can fill in their interests and desires in advance.

Men in particular often wonder which site to register with given the multitude of portals. This is often due to their own search motivation. BDSM in particular is a wide field of ideas and desires, and not everyone has the same preferences and needs. Of course, we cannot take all interests into account in our test, but we have tried to cover the criteria that are most important to us. Our rankings are therefore based on the criteria that play an important role for every male user, such as the ratio of men to women or the response rate of women contacted. Basically, our readers can be sure they will meet real women on the sites we recommend

Yet we often experience that members give up too quickly if no date is arranged in the first few days. We therefore recommend staying calm in the beginning! Patience is absolutely essential in our opinion, in addition to a fully completed profile (including a photo). Not everyone openly displays BDSM, so members should be aware that acting discreetly sometimes takes time and it is not possible to check the inbox every day to see if a message has arrived. Instead, you have to wait for an unnoticed moment.